ROLES OF BODY LANGUAGES IN SPEAKING SKILLS
Speaking - communication skills play an important role in everyone's daily life and work. So what should we do to achieve high efficiency in communication with the necessary requirements to be a good communicator: confidence, sociability, optimism and self-respect as well as respect- respect the other person.
Language is an essential and mandatory means of communication. Without language, people would not be able to communicate, so one must practice to be able to acquire good language skills when communicating.
In addition to our language - our voices - the language of body activities is also an effective type of language used to support emotional expression, to support speakers as well as listeners to understand. things that cannot be expressed through language. So what is body language?
According to Wikipedia,” body language is a form of nonverbal communication in which bodily actions, not language, are used to express or convey information. Such behavior includes facial expressions, body posture, gestures, eye movements, touching, and the use of personal space.”
Thus, we can understand that body language is the behavior of the body, the actions of hands, feet, the whole body, facial expressions, eyes, lips, mouth....transparent. communication process.
It is not natural that my grandparents taught me "the eyes are the windows to the soul", because only through the eyes of the opposite person can sometimes understand the true feelings of the person who is communicating with them. : love, hate, indifference, indifference, enthusiasm, passion, cheerfulness or happiness. Maybe you don't understand very well about body language but I'm sure that, there are times, in the process of communication, when the other person acknowledges something to you but your feelings about that recognition are completely opposite. On the contrary, you are thinking they are not being sincere, you are thinking they are hiding something from you. Perhaps in many cases, your hunch is completely correct, because you are sensing that in addition to verbal language, the other person is expressing non-verbal languages, and those non-verbal languages helped you feel the credibility of their words. That is body language. So how to use body language effectively and read the other's body language to help the communication become successful?
The first point is to understand the other person's body language you need to pay attention to not only their words but also their body language behavior. The points that you need to pay attention to are, eyes, hands, face, gait, standing and sitting.
First of all, the eyes. The eyes of the opposite person help us understand them a lot more than we think, friends because eyes are one of the strongest indicators of a person's mood and intentions.
Does the other person look you straight in the eye when talking? Looking someone directly in the eye is understood that the speaker is showing his sincerity in his words. Looking straight with resolute eyes shows determination, looking straight with angry eyes shows that they are very angry with you and only you, looking straight with tender eyes showing love proves Show that they have a lot of affection for you, they love you very much. Just that alone can be understood that, just looking straight, but with many different messages.
If the other person's eyes are always looking for ways to avoid your gaze, there may be the following signals. If avoidance is accompanied by glaring, lying, and rolling eyes, it is clear that the person has something fraudulent that wants to hide from you. If the person avoids your gaze and occasionally blinks his eyelids, it's obvious that the person is emotional, shy, and wants to hide their true feelings for you intentionally so that you don't realize that emotion. .
If your response is a lifeless eye, showing no emotions, the person opposite you really does not value you, they completely do not care about you or what you are trying to say.
So, just by looking at you, you can understand a part of the other person's feelings towards you.
Hope you can practice for yourself how to read other people's eyes to help you understand them better to communicate better.
Good luck!
Nguyễn Thị Kim Mẫn