SOLUTIONS TO GASLIGHTING
In the essay below, I will discuss the effects by which a person suffers from gaslighting, and then I also analyze some solutions to save victims from gaslighting at the end.
Young people 'laughing depression' because of social norms
Social standards at 18 years old go to university, 22 years old find a job, 24 years old get married, 26 years old have children that many young people consider as a burden. 24
Second, psychological manipulation is very common in relationships where there is a manipulator such as narcissists, psychopaths, or people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder (please refer to these types of manipulators in detail in another article).
For example, when a husband has an affair and is discovered by his wife, he will use psychological manipulation to blindfold his wife and make her feel guilty for suspecting her husband, "helicopter" parents (Term parents) "helicopter" appeared since 1969 to refer to parents who care, worry, take care of their children too much) controlling and imposing will psychologically manipulate their children to make them feel worthless. value and never good enough...
Third, psychological manipulation occurs in three stages, although the stages are not always linear and will sometimes overlap:
The first stage is skepticism: when the first signs of psychological manipulation appear, the happenings seem rather unusual to the victims. They intuitively realize something is wrong, but they are convinced by the manipulator, or they convince themselves that it is normal behavior.
From there, the process of normalizing the manipulative behaviors within the victims themselves begins. The second stage is defense: at this stage, victims must find ways to protect themselves against manipulation.
I have been living for ten years because of depression
I always fell into a state of lethargy, lack of vitality and quit my job more than a dozen times and always felt inferior to my friends. 22
However, every time they stand up for themselves or speak out about unusual events, victims are, once again, drawn into games of manipulation where they will always lose. They will become obsessed with what the manipulator is saying, will brood over it, let it go round and round in their heads like an endless tape.
Obviously something is wrong, but victims can't ask the other side to confirm that it's what they see it to be. They constantly question themselves and feel they have "problems".
The final stage is depression: when it reaches this stage, the victim will feel a complete loss of joy in life, barely recognizing who they are.
The symptoms of psychological manipulation victims are the same as those of depressed people. Many people will have to live with the disease for the rest of their lives, because the source of depression is never discovered. They still live with the manipulators, even being accompanied for years by them in the treatment of depression.
In many cases, when the abusers have been identified, it is not easy for the victims to accept the harsh truth that they have been and are becoming victims of their own parents or spouses, that they have been deceived, deceived and deceived for years without even knowing it.
Even they still blindly believe in the love and sweet words that manipulators have stuffed into their heads for years. It is the moments of good and bad that are intertwined, deliberately executed by the manipulators that make them blind and unable to accept the looming reality. Therefore, the process of liberation and self-healing will not begin unless some changeable event inadvertently causes them to leave the manipulator and focus on new people, new jobs.
How to save a person from depression?
Depressed people often prefer to be alone, silent and comfortable in the flow of negative thoughts in their head. 42
In the movie Gaslight (1944), the character of the wife was psychologically manipulated by her husband for a long time to appropriate inheritance when constantly changing the furniture in the house, adjusting the brightness of the gas lamp. (the detail that makes up the movie's title) to convince her and everyone else that she's crazy.
Fortunately, the wife was pointed out by a kind man to her husband's tricks. Immediately, she regained confidence in herself and got out of the quagmire of psychological manipulation.
I hope that after reading this article, a certain reader will also free themselves from psychological manipulation in the same sense as described above and not confuse it with fraud or other acts attributed to it. suffer from "psychological manipulation".