GAS LIGHTING

This writing discusses a very common problem in the world which is gaslighting. This issue causes serious effects on both individuals and society.
Psychological manipulation - "game" the victim always loses
For example, when an adulterer husband is psychologically manipulated, the wife will be "blinded", feeling guilty when she suspects her husband.
Understanding psychological manipulation Gaslighting (roughly translated as "psychological manipulation") is the keyword of 2022 according to Merriam-Webster, an online dictionary website specializing in publishing keywords of the year.
In Vietnam, the keyword "psychological manipulation"; has also become a well-known new term since the scandal of a popular "super trick" on social networks.
Psychologically, psychological manipulation (gaslighting) is the use of false, inaccurate information to manipulate others to gain power and control. Manipulators use words to make the victim feel less confident in their own memory, values, and judgment.
This is a slow process that is difficult to detect. At first, the victim may even feel guilty about suspecting the manipulator. Continuous self-doubt will slowly make the victim no longer confident and more susceptible to the influence of those around him, gradually
losing his sense of self-worth and the reality of events and phenomena. This is a very effective form of psychological abuse because it causes the victim to question their own feelings, abilities, and sanity.
At that time, the abuser will have a lot of power over the victim and can easily control them. Furthermore, once victims have lost the ability to believe in themselves, it becomes even harder for them to leave the abuser.
There are many tricks to manipulate the psychology of the victims such as: making the victims no longer political; repeatedly using words and body language to trivialize the victim's self-worth or feelings; reverse blame and accusation; make the victim think that he is not awake, has a problem with his mind; there are times when it is sweet and makes the victim feel vague; outright lying or pretending to forget; make up stories that are not true; use what the victims hold dear against them; refuse to solve problems, distract; seeks to isolate the victims and, after a long enough time, the victim is left with no one else but to rely on the manipulator himself.
One of the manipulative formulas that is mentioned a lot by psychologists and foreign media is DARVO, which stands for "deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender" which roughly translates as "denial, attack" counterattack and swap positions of victim and abuser"
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For example, when an error is pointed out, the manipulator will immediately deny, denying that the wrongdoing was done. After that, will attack the victim back by distracting or threatening revenge (attack). Ultimately, the manipulator will play the victim, whining, sulking, appearing pitiful, shouting at groups, recruiting allies to make the other person feel guilty and ashamed of his behavior. close.
At that time, the manipulator suddenly switched to becoming the victim in the incident and completely wiped his hands with the original accusation (reverse victim and offender). However, since spreading on social networks in Vietnamese, the term
"psychological manipulation" with the English name "gaslighting" seems to have been misinterpreted unfortunately.

Despite being a lawyer, with years of experience in self-study on narcissism (narcissism I refer to here as "narcissism", not "narcissistic personality disorder") and the psychological manipulation techniques that love often used, I would like to clarify some of the following contents:
First, psychological manipulation is different from fraud in that:
(i) This is a slow process that takes place over a long period of time without even being aware of by the victims;
(ii) Manipulators use false and inaccurate information to gain power (power) and control, not just for money like fraud;
(iii) Victims of years of manipulation often experience "spontaneous" depression (or depression of unknown cause), they have to live with medication and depression for the rest of their lives if they are still connected to the perpetrator. manipulative (many people have self-healed depression just by learning the knowledge of psychological manipulation).