We don't want to see others hurt, especially those we love. When someone is suffering, we often feel
we need to do something, say something to pull them out of the shadows. We do this to ourselves too
and too bad it doesn't work.
We convince ourselves that all the "positive" things we say can give us a better future. We believe that a
"positive" mind always leads to a positive life.
However, the division of "positive" and "negative" simplifies people's lives. And it forces us to minimize
our complex emotions instead of allowing ourselves time to overcome them.
Here are 9 "toxic positive" things we need to stop saying to ourselves or to others, instead, we can offer
recognition and cultivate healthy optimism.
1. "As long as you stay positive, everything will be fine"

The reality is that nothing is guaranteed, no matter what your thoughts are, and it's perfectly normal to
be scared or worried about all the things you can't control. You don't have to be positive all the time.
Experience emotions and only when you feel really better will you see opportunities that you may not
have seen before.
2. "You'll Be Fine"

Of course you'll be fine, but maybe not now. If you let yourself feel the emotions you are carrying, you
will be able to do things that help you recover and you will eventually come out of the shadows,
enjoying more things in life.
3. "Don't worry and trust the universe"

Instead of believing in something external that doesn't change the fact that you're hurting, try to believe
in yourself. Believe that you are strong enough to handle whatever is coming up and even if it is not
something you choose, you can still learn and grow from it.
4. "If you change your attitude, the world will change too"

None of us have so much power that just changing our attitudes can change completely. And changing
your attitude isn't the same as flipping a light switch. It may take time to address the limiting beliefs in
your thoughts and feelings — beliefs that may have been formed through traumatic experiences.
Be gentle and patient with yourself as you try to change your inner state. When you start seeing things
differently, you'll be able to slowly make external changes.
5. "Think about how lucky you are, many people don't"

You can be lucky in many different ways, and it is true that there are many people out there who are
facing devastating challenges that you can hardly imagine. That doesn't mean your struggles and
feelings aren't worth it.
Mitigating pain does not make it possible for pain to go away. Allow yourself to feel that your life is both
lucky and bad. When you accept your feelings, you can get out.
6. "Life is too short to feel bad all the time"

Not that your lifespan is too short. If you feel bad all the time, it's because you're struggling with real
challenges and you need help. You can't change how you feel through willpower. You don't need a
cliché, you need a support. And remember that you are not alone.
7. "You have too much to do to feel depressed"
Focus on why you're feeling hard and depressed instead of asking yourself if you should feel that way.
Finding the root of the problem and pain won't guarantee that you'll never feel that way again, but it
will help you heal so you can feel better.
8. "Think of happy things and you will live a happy life"
Instead of trying to control your mind, seek help to get to the root of your mental illness. Healing is the
key to a happier life.
9. "Things are not as bad as they seem"
When you allow yourself to feel what you have, you can gradually begin to change your perspective on
what you're going through.